Pushed the limits one too many times. Know you have to STOP but something in you just won't let go.
It can be any vice: gambling, drinking, drugs, religion, porn, sex, violence, anger, over-thinking, smoking.
It's never easy to contain it and the ugly beast rears it's head more often then you want it to.
- How do you wrangle in your life before all the pieces have shattered and are too sharp to pick up?
- How do you convince yourself that everything will be okay when you're on the verge of panic every day?
Here are 6 things you can do to make yourself feel better:
If you don't have your best foot to put forward, don't do it.
When you are feeling over burdened and down. It is best to disconnect as much as you can. Take some time to internalize and breathe. I know this may seem hard, especially if you have a busy day of meetings, a packed work schedule, a family to take care of, or are mentally on the edge.
The biggest thing is communication.
Tell your significant other you aren't feeling well and need some time.
Tell your boss you are in the planning stages of the project and need less pressure to get influence.
Tell your kids it's roll swap day. Ask them to wait on you and see how well they do. You'd be surprised.
Honesty and openness is the best aspect when you are feeling mentally depleted or lost.
If you have to, make a change. Sit down and list what has you stressed out. If it's everything, number them in sequential order and tackle number one. Sometimes our intuition is stronger than our heart. Be strong and know if you are feeling sick about it, that's all the proof you need.
I am the first to tell you, it is so hard to get moving when you don't want to.
Do it any way.
Once you are into a routine you love, you will feel better and accomplished. If you don't like conventional exercise, don't do it. Turn on some music, your favorite music, and move. If it's metal, head bang. Not too much or your brain cells may yell at you. If it's dance, then dance. If it's blues, then pretend you are taking the stage and put yourself out there. It doesn't matter, just move.
I have dealt with depression for years. This is the best remedy.
Skate board, snowboard, go for a walk, march in one spot, do 100 sit ups, drive to somewhere serene and go for a hike. It really doesn't matter. I'm telling you, a hard day will feel less difficult if you get blood flowing.
If you put a smile on and go out to somewhere you will enjoy yourself, your day will instantly improve.
If you don't have money, call a friend and go house watching. This is a great activity to make you outraged at the size of some people's houses. Count chandeliers, because you aren't truly successful until you have one (Sarcasm is in Italics). Or take in a comedy show, laughter is the best medicine. Are you a musician or love music? There are always open mics, karaoke, and local performances.
The point is, get away from your head. For me, it's laughter. I love comedy and a good laugh is always a great cure for a bad day. If a book takes you away, use that. If it means, attending a movie by yourself, why not just go? Who exactly is going to see, know, or remember you are there. Well unless you're naked, please don't go naked.
Life is far too short to let a bad day ruin you.
- Go to a coffee shop.
- Say hi to a stranger.
- Experience new things.
Do Something You Are Good At
This is a major one to help you combat your mind. When we do well, we feel well. It's an amazing feeling to be good at something. Most addictions take hold because we feel we will never be anything else. I know this. Concentrate on what you do well. Sing, dance, play instruments, play games, make weird sounds, create art, read, watch television, write... whatever it is, just do something that will make you smile or get you out of your head. It's okay to be upset, it's not okay to stay there. The only person you hurt is you.
Just Let A Bad Day Happen
The truth is: a bad day, situation, or addiction happens. Don't give yourself crap. A friend of mine once said 'you don't have to keep doing it', referring to when I was upset about drinking again after 45 days of not.
If you messed up, remember it is your standard you have to live up to, just try harder next time to not do it each and every day, until one day you won't anymore. You really have to learn to be okay with not being okay. This is something I still learn and I am sure many will agree.
Make A Plan For Tomorrow
On a bad day, end the day by making a plan for the next day.
- Think about what you will do different.
- Write down what you hope to accomplish (be realistic).
- Forgive yourself. We all make mistakes and struggle.
Regress, recompose, and re-emerge.
It's really all okay.